The Importance of connection with your Therapist

People often ask me: 

How does healing happen? 

How do I know that my therapist and I are a good fit?

I believe:

Healing happens through connection, through being witnessed alongside someone who is authentic present and real.

A therapist does not need to reveal everything…but small moments of shared humanity, warmth, or empathy can transform the relationship and trust.

Sometimes the most healing moments occur in the quiet, mutual recognition of “me too” or "I get you" or "I see you".

People who like going to therapy usually really like their therapist

Without the therapeutic bond, therapy rarely feels like something you “like” to do.

Finding a good therapist is not determined by their approach, the university they got their degree or how expensive their rate is. Instead it is determined by the genuine “click” of the therapist and client.

The strongest predictor of therapy outcomes is actually the therapeutic relationship itself.

Original wounding occurred in relationship-healing must also be experienced within a relationship.

A safe therapeutic bond allows the nervous system and brains relational conditioning to be reorganized.

Through consistent co-regulation, a new relational blueprint can emerge - one that feels safe, supportive and attuned.

The connection you have with your therapist is MEDICINE.